Tuesday, November 29

How do you know if someone genuinely loves you?

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If the person truly loves you, then they’ll not only want to be around you a lot, but they will also know when to give you space and let you do your own thing. … If the person wants to be around you every waking moment, then that may be more of a sign of that person’s insecurities than true love.

When someone is not only sympathetic when something happens to you, but also empathetic, it may be another sign that they are in love with you. … “If he or she is able to show empathy or is upset when you are, not only do they have your back, but they also probably have strong feelings for you.

True love feels like security and stability. You don’t worry about breaking up or your partner leaving you abruptly. When they go out of town, you might miss them, but you are also happy for them, because you want them to travel and have new experiences. Your love has balance and no sense of suspicion or possession.

1. They Make An Effort To Touch You Throughout The Day

Physical, nonsexual touch is important for maintaining intimacy, and it very well may be the way your partner shows they care. They might give you an extra squeeze when they’re holding your hand, or sneak up behind you for a hug, Bethany Ricciardi, a sex educator and relationship expert, tells Bustle.

You can also keep an eye out for body language cues. “Are their feet facing you while you talk, or are they standing up straight and making eye contact? If so, they’re drawn to you,” Ricciardi says. This is even more telling if your partner’s love language is physical touch. Even if they’re not saying “I love you” with words, they may be showing it through physical affection.

2. You’re The First Person They Want To Share News With

Being in a relationship means being part of a team. Your wins are their wins, and their losses are your losses. If your partner makes it a point to share both good and bad news with you before anyone else, they already see you as their teammate even if they’re not saying it

As Angelisa Almanzar, a love and relationship coach, tells Bustle, “This is someone who sees you as a permanent fixture in their life and has developed a deep bond.” People want to share important things with the important people in their life.

Also, if your partner is turning to you first when they’re going through a tough time, it means they trust you enough to be open and vulnerable with you. In order to have an intimate and deeper connection, vulnerability is key.

3. They’ll Try To Maintain Contact As Much As They Can

While anything phone-related doesn’t exactly scream love, “something as simple as a ‘good morning’ text can show someone has deep feelings for you,” Dresean Ryan, a relationship expert, tells Bustle, especially if they send messages like clockwork.

When it comes to relationship success, consistency is key. It’s hard to form a deep bond with someone who pops in and out of your life whenever they choose.

If your partner makes the effort to stay connected with you in some way every day, this shows that you’re always on their mind and they want to be a part of your life. They actually care about getting to know you and what goes on in your life. Someone who isn’t that serious about you won’t always bother to make the effort.

4. They Remember The Important Details

These can be dates that mean a lot to you, conversations you’ve had about your family, the first song that played on the radio when you drove in the car together, or where every scar and freckle is on your body. It’s easier for someone to remember the details when they’re interested in you. So when someone remembers everything from the little things to the big, it very well might mean they love you.

According to Ricciardi, at the very least, it shows that your partner is listening and paying close attention to you. They’re eager to learn everything they can because you’re important to them. “They may not even realize they’re doing it,” she says. “They just care so much they can’t help but remember the little things when it comes to you.”

5. They Empathize With You

When someone loves you, they’ll know when something is off. “If you spend enough time with someone you’ll find yourself caring deeply and your mood can very easily be affected by theirs,” Ricciardi says. “Emotions are contagious, especially when you care for the other person.”

If you’re having a bad day, they’ll instinctively know. That’s because empathy naturally takes over. “When you love someone, you are happy for their happiness, and sad for their sadness,” Ricciardi says. More often than not, you can’t even control it.

6. They’re Proud To Have You In Their Life

If their friends and family know you two are together, your partner is clearly very proud to have you in their life. “Even if they haven’t said, ‘I love you’ yet, wanting to show you off and to get approval from parents (no matter how old a partner is), means that they care for you enough to see a future with you,” April Masini, a relationship expert and author, tells Bustle. If your partner is bringing you into their world, it’s a sure sign they’re not only proud to be with you, but they also have deep feelings for you.

If you’re not quite there yet, their social media can also say a lot. According to Ricciardi, someone who likes posting photos with you on social media, and likes highlighting how great you are to their friends and family, loves being with you. If not, they wouldn’t be doing those things.

7. They Stick Around

Someone who has deep feelings for you will find ways to be around you as much as they can. But most importantly, they’ll stick around when things get tough.

All relationships go through ups and downs. When you’re with someone who has deeper feelings for you, you won’t have to worry about them leaving during a fight or breaking up with you after a bad night out together.

8. They Don’t Get Weird When It Comes To Talking About The Future

Your partner may not say it, but if they can comfortably talk about the future with you without clamming up and getting weird, it’s a sign they do love you — or at the very least are starting to get there.

It can be subtle, too. You might notice that they make jokes about where they’ll propose to you one day or you might discuss the names of your future children. They may even bring up doing something in the short-term, like going away for your birthday or doing something over the holidays.

9. They’ll Say “I Love You” In Other Ways

If someone loves you but hasn’t said the words, Julie Spira, a dating coach, tells Bustle they may beat around the bush and say things that infer it. Instead, you might hear things like, “I’ve never felt this way about someone before” or “you make me so incredibly happy.”






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