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The 25 Best Men’s Health Sex Tips Ever

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We dug up the all-time best sex advice from our archives.BY THE EDITORS OF MEN’S HEALTHJORDYN



Even if your sex life is already satisfying, it’s normal to want to make it even better. Maybe your love life has been in a rut lately, or perhaps you’re already having great sex, but you want to start having even more earth-shattering, mind-blowing sex sessions that end in toe-curling orgasms. Well, you’ve come to the right place, my friend.

We mined hundreds of Men’s Health sex and relationships articles to find the all-time best sex tips we’ve ever given. These tips come from a range of doctors, therapists, and experts across the United States who specialize in sexual health, pleasure, and intimacy.

Maybe you’re looking to boost your erectionsstrengthen your orgasms, and last longer in bed, or perhaps you’re trying to amp up your skills when it comes to pleasing your partner. Maybe you’re curious about exploring anal play, want to know which sex toys are best for couples, or like to learn how to bring up your deepest, darkest sexual fantasies with your partner. Perhaps your sex life has grown stale, and you want to dabble in some BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism, and Masochism) or are even considering finding a third to play with. Whatever it is, we almost certainly have advice that can help.

So without further ado, here are our 25 best expert-approved tips and techniques for having the best sex of your life. You can thank us later.Use your tongue wisely.



When kissing, don’t use your tongue like a dart (in and out, in and out). Instead, try varying motions and amounts of pressure. Head here for more tips on how to perfect your kissing technique.Do kegel exercises.

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If you want to last longer during sex, you’re not alone. “Premature ejaculation is a problem that affects almost every man at some point in his life,” Thomas J. Walsh, M.D., a urologist at the University of Washington, told us. One way to delay ejaculation is by doing kegels. Strengthening the pubococcygeal (PC) muscles of the pelvic floor will help you control your orgasms during sex. For tips on how to do ’em—plus other ways to last longer in bed—click here.Experiment with edging.



Another way to make sex last longer? Train yourself to delay your orgasm while you’re masturbating. Edging—the act of bringing yourself to the brink of orgasm and then stopping all sexual stimulation—is a common technique for avoiding premature ejaculation.ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW a cock ring.

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We’ve called the cock ring the “superfood of sex toys” because it’s cheap, easy to use, and can benefit your sex life in so many ways. A snug ring that fits around the base of your penis (and sometimes your testicles, too) can strengthen your erection, boost your confidence, and make your orgasms more powerful. Opt for a vibrating option, and it could even help stimulate your partner’s clitoris or booty.
Masturbate together.

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All too often, we think of “sex” as being penis in vagina or anus, but frankly, that’s such a limiting view of what sex is. Enter mutual masturbation, i.e. masturbating alongside your partner. Not only is is great for when you’re too tired to get it on, but you also get to learn how your partner touches themselves. That way, the next time you do have partnered sex, you can touch them exactly how they like!Find a condom that feels great.

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If you hate the way condoms make you feel during sex, you might not be wearing the right ones, according to sex therapist Ian Kerner, Ph.D., author of She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman. When picking a condom, find one that fits like a glove, and look for rubbers that are ribbed or ultra-thin. Condoms are highly effective at preventing pregnancy and STIs, so it’s worth finding the one that feels best for you. For recommendations on what to buy, click here.

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The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located between the bladder and rectum, and it contains tons of nerve endings. Stimulating the prostate can feel so good, some sexual health experts have dubbed it the “P-spot” or the “male G-spot.” Here are our tips for finding it, plus our recommendations for the best prostate massagers on the market.Explore temperature play.

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“Temperature play is a technique that uses heat or cold to stimulate the skin and provoke a sensual reaction,” explains Ashley Cobb, Lovehoney‘s Sex Toy Matchmaker.

Heat things up in the boudoir by engaging in wax play, or rub an ice cube on your partner’s body (nipples are especially sensitive!) to elicit a powerful sensory response.Use a butt plug or anal beads.

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These butt-centric sex toys can also help stimulate the prostate during partner sex or masturbation, as well as activate those sensitive nerve endings around the opening of the anus. Butt plugs are designed to slide in and stay put—hence the word “plug”—while anal beads can be gradually inserted or pulled out over the course of a sex session. Check out these roundups of our favorite butt plugs and anal beads.ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW up.

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“Lubrication increases the comfort and speed with which you can penetrate the vagina and grind against the clitoris,” Ellen Friedrichs, M.A., an adjunct professor of human sexuality at Rutgers University, told Men’s Health. “But sometimes, no matter how turned on a woman might be psychologically, she can have trouble getting wet.”That’s where lube comes in. Try squeezing a few drops onto the tip of your penis before you start intercourse.Watch porn together.

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We’ll let you in on a little secret: lots of women love watching porn. According to a Men’s Health survey, 75% of women said they were down to watch porn with a partner during foreplay or sex itself. That said, they may not be into the same type of content you’re into, so be sure to discuss your tastes beforehand or scope out some softer-core fare. (Director Erika Lust’s LustFilms is a great place to start.)Don’t race to intercourse.

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Sex isn’t a race. Take time to explore your partner before you get to intercourse. Not only will it build desire, but it’ll help you discover what you and your partner do and don’t like in bed. “On its own, sex is pretty mechanical,” psychologist and relationship therapist Tracy Thomas, Ph.D., told Men’s Health. “Foreplay is where you learn what you like and don’t like.”ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW’t immediately head south during foreplay.

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During foreplay, the genitals are off-limits. Touch the other parts of your partner’s body, using fingers, a feather, a silk scarf, or anything that turns them on—and ask them to describe how it feels. This builds the tension until you’re both ready to explode. Check out our tips on how not to screw up your next foreplay session.
Ease into dirty talk.

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Want to know if your partner likes to talk dirty? Say something like, “You make me think dirty thoughts.” Ease in slowly. It’s best to test the waters a bit, rather than immediately go for your deepest, kinkiest dirty talk right off the bat. Here’s our guide to talking dirty in bed.Try some roleplay.

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Roleplay requires a huge suspension of disbelief, but if you can fully commit, the payoff can be massive. Many popular roles (boss/secretary, teacher/student, stripper/customer) play on the theme of one person being in control, while the other is at their mercy.

“These are strong dynamics, even in healthy and fun sexual relationships,” Jean Mone, a New York City sex therapist previously told Men’s Health. “They allow the [partners] to enact their fantasies in a way that won’t leave them feeling vulnerable.”ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW circles on your partner’s clitoris.

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If your partner has a vulva, there’s a very good chance they need clitoral stimulation in order to climax—P-in-V intercourse alone isn’t gonna cut it. As for the best way to stimulate your partner’s clitoris? An Indiana University survey of 1,055 women found that 3 out of 4 respondents like it when a partner traces circles on their clitoris with their fingers or tongue. But if you’re not entirely sure what drives your partner wild, ask them!But don’t overdo the clitoral contact.



The clitoris is packed with nerves and super sensitive, so your partner may not want you to touch them there directly. The clitoris actually extends several inches under the skin on either side of her vagina—like a wishbone—which means you can massage it without applying direct pressure. Try tracing the extensions with flat, wide, extra-wet tongue strokes, or slow finger zigzags (don’t forget lube). Then rub a slow spiral around the top, drawing closer with each pass. The combination of anticipation and indirect contact will bring those pleasure centers to life.Don’t ignore the perineum.



Stimulating the perineum—the area between your balls and your butt—can feel really good during masturbation or sex. “This area is packed with nerve-endings, so it feels really sensitive,” Arlene Goldman, Ph.D., co-author of Secrets of Sexual Ecstasy, told Men’s Health. You can also ask your partner to apply pressure to the area during oral sex.ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW on closing the pleasure gap—not just the orgasm gap.

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The orgasm gap is real, and it’s great that you want to help your partner climax! But when you make it the singular focus of a sexual encounter—for instance, telling them you don’t want to come until they do—you might end up stressing them out and decreasing the likelihood of them reaching orgasm. Instead, read up on closing the pleasure gap.Don’t ask your partner if they finished.

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Here’s something you should never ask a person with a vulva after sex: “Did you come?” By posing that question after sex, rather than during the act itself, you’re implicitly telling your partner that their pleasure is an afterthought for you—and that’s not okay. Instead, make their pleasure a priority during sex itself.Switch positions.

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If you and your partner aren’t as jazzed about doing it as you used to be, maybe it’s time to deviate from your go-to sex positions. Try these easy ways to spice up the missionary or cowgirl positions. Or, if you’re really feeling adventurous, commit to working your way through our 50 favorite sex positions of all time.Remember there are more options than just monogamy.



A 2018 study out of the University of Guelph suggests that couples in open relationships are as well off as those in monogamous relationships when it comes to relationship satisfaction, psychological well-being, and sexual satisfaction.

If you and your partner have been itching to have sex with someone new, you could explore having a threesome or attending a sex party together.ADVERTISEMENT – CONTINUE READING BELOW into the public sex fantasy.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller, a research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, interviewed over 4,000 Americans about their sexual fantasies for his book, Tell Me What You Want. Eighty-four percent of respondents said they’d fantasized about public sex at least once before, and 29% said they fantasized about it often. “People are turned on by the idea of doing new and different things sexually, which is why fantasies about having sex in different settings are quite common,” Lehmiller told Men’s Health. “People also tend to think of sex as something that people only do in private, so taking it public is transgressive.”

Now, we don’t recommend actually having sex in public—that could get you in trouble with the law. But there are plenty of ways to safely tap into the public sex fantasy, from dirty talk to virtual orgies to sex resorts.Explore your other fantasies.

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Here’s an idea for a “fantasy lottery”: Both you and your partner write five sexual fantasies down on five separate notebook cards. Then head to a restaurant where you can get a booth and some privacy in a public setting. Over dinner and wine, pull out the cards and make three piles: “yes”; “maybe someday”; and “not on your life.” Put the items from the first two piles in a shoe box, and once a month—or as often as you like—pull one out to try.

YouPorn’s Couple’s Chemistry Quiz is another great way to discover your shared kinks.Explore power dynamics.

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You can dabble a little with BDSM. One of you can be the dominant—i.e., the one commanding their partner what to do—while the other can be the submissive who listens to the commands.

There are many ways to explore dominant and submissive relationships, including spankingdoling out punishments, and practicing bondage.


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